Surrendering Anger with Humility

Last Thursday at Harvest Young Adults, we continued our series "Taking Care of Each Other" with a session called "Surrendering Anger with Humility".

Anger has been an issue I never thought I had, since I often ignore issues or suppress my emotions. I later realized that this too is a form of anger.

Here are some lessons I learned to become emotionally fit by understanding and handling anger God's way.

Four questions to ask when someone is angry

1. What was going on?
2. What did you do? (response)
3. What were you thinking?
4. What were you really looking for? (Getting to the heart issues)

When you're angry, consider:
- What idols are being messed with on your life? Eph 5:26
- What do I want so much I'm willing to kill for it? Anger inside the heart is murder
- What are the heart issues? Anger usually masks other emotions (e.g. fear)

Ephesians 4:31-32 - no room for anger in the Christian life

Bitterness is like a weed strangling your life

Why are you angry?

The secular view suggests chemical imbalances, poor ability to respond to stress / conflict, etc. The Biblical view distinguishes between a righteous and sinful anger. Most of our anger is sin (unless we are defending the helpless or standing up for our God). Sinful anger is a heart issue.

Self deception: Often when we are angry, we deceive ourselves in thinking we can act like God and get away with it. We need to remember that He is God and we are not.

Is the anger really solving the issue?

Anger never solves the issue. An illustration was given of how typical conflicts in marriage relationships arise by an all-too-common dance between fearful and angry hearts.

You cannot control anger. You have to surrender to humility.Surrender anger along with your rights

Be gentle but direct. Like velvet steel.

Final consideration

Are you angry out of habit? Why are you really angry? 

Our anger usually arises from an offense of personal glory, not when God's glory is at stake.

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